Honey For The Soul



for The Soul

Written by Iman Benet

I’ve been feeling sort of “ehh” about everything over the last few days. 

Call it what you will, mercury retrograde or crippling anxiety brought to you by the deafening scream of an ongoing existential crisis, but in any case, there’s definitely been this overwhelming sense of pressure surrounding me and everything that I’m doing lately.

In all honesty, I don’t feel like this as often as I used to, which I suppose is a good thing considering I used to get stuck in this sort of spiral for long periods at a time, drowning myself in the salty warm waters of my own sadness because it was familiar and I didn’t know any better. 

But there’s been a lot of growth since those days and it makes me happy to write this and mean it.

Now, when i start to feel sorta blue and overwhelmed I soak up as much of it as i can and use it to write, because I know now that this feeling is fleeting, and that it, like everything else, is here to teach me something. To provide me with a gift of some sorts. 

That’s how I learned how to survive. To take my feelings and my emotions in my hands and turn them into a work of art. Spinning my sorrow in to gold, is how i like to think of it. Alchemy is what it is at the end of the day and I’m starting to get good at it. 

Granted, I just started writing consistently again so you may feel that refering to my work as gold at this point is a bit presumptuous. (I’m cringing at the thought of sounding like someone who knows at all what she’s doing) However, I’d like to make it clear (to you and to myself) that writing, to me, is not about being the best writer or looking like the best writer. Nor is writing about coming off as some pretentious version of myself that writes a blog for ad spots and the sake of writing a blog.

The intention behind my work is about alchemy on a grand scale. Connection. Showing the misunderstood that I do indeed understand. It’s about Inspiration. Expressing myself for the sake of letting you know that in this upside down world, here I am, with you, trying to make sense of it all too. 

Currently I’m being presented with some real critical life choices and If you’re familiar with the concept of ancestral trauma, you’ll know that these choices im being presented with aren’t just about where i want to live or what job i want to commit to, though those choices do matter and currently they have their foot on my fucking throat. But I’m also being asked the deeper questions, like how do i want to FEEL? What energetic imprint am i leaving on the world? What legacy am i leaving for my future kin? Do I want to repeat these cycles of suffering and lack that the women in my family know all too well, or do i want to embark on my own journey to joy and freedom and lead the way for those who are to come after me?

Basically “who the hell am I and what the hell for” seems to be the reoccurring theme in my life right now.

Barriers are being broken and old paradigms are shifting daily. And while, I am grateful to be ready, able, and aware enough to do this work, honestly when I signed this soul contract I had absolutely no idea what i was getting myself into and I am EXHAUSTED. (Who’s idea was this anyway?)

As a libra it’s hard enough to choose what song i wanna listen to, let alone what kind of human being i want to be? And when you start bringing other peoples lives into the equation like the fate of my unborn children and my unborn children’s children’s, I basically go into cardiac arrest. 

Raise your hand if the idea of being responsible for another persons destiny makes you want to pass the fuck out 

Raise your hand if the idea of being responsible for your own damn destiny makes you want to pass the fuck out??

Okay. Perhaps I’m spiraling a bit - All of that was to say, I’m aware that there is a yin and a yang to this energy thing. And that there must always be a “bad” day every now and then if there’s ever going to be a good day. There is a balance to be kept. Always.

Sometimes things get foggy and dark and sometime soon they’ll be bright and clear again, and that’s okay. One feeling or experience is not more valid than another. Feel what you need to feel and let the universe teach you what it needs to teach YOU. And in the meantime, remember to take care yourself.  

Today it was clearer to me than ever that i needed to show myself some love.

So I created a little self care ritual that i want to share with you all.

I hope it brings you joy or whatever it is you need the most right now.

I started my ritual with a long shower. To wash all of the energy from the past few days off of me and to start again from a clean slate. Literally. I find the hotter the water, and the more mellow dramatic the song, the deeper i can get into the “zone” or in other words, sort of a meditative state. And thus the more effective my washing away of negative energy feels. If you don’t already have a shower playlist of your own, here’s a link to mine. 

From there I got out, brushed my teeth (because I have some sense of human decency and don’t brush my teeth while I’m still in  the actual shower) *scoffs*

I then moisturized with an oil blend I’ve made specifically with the intention of well being and abundance in mind and anointed myself with it.

Now this is where i might lose you so let me explain. If you read my “Living Intentionally Article” in MJLIFESTYLE Magazine (shameless plug) you’ll know that everything that you do or create with magical intention in mind - yields magical results. If you believe in magic, or more importantly, if you believe you have the power to create your own magic, you will live a magical life. This is fact. If you don’t ascribe to a belief in magic or it’s ideals, you simply will not live a magical life. Duh. It’s really as simple as that.

So get clear on which one you choose.

As someone who does ascribe to the idea that anything that is deemed magical and consciously crafted with intention, will bring about magical results; I created a blend of oils and herbs that I use to anoint myself with when i want to consciously call in a specific energy in any given moment. 

This particular blend I call Honey For The Soul and it consists of jojoba, almond oil, lavender and some other good stuff and I’m thinking of selling something similar in the shop soon, let me know if you’d be interested.

As for the ritual here’s how I do mine, but yours can and should be specific to you.

As i pour the ritual blend into my hands I say these words:

“I anoint myself today with the oils of Love, well being, clarity, bliss, peace of mind, prosperity and abundance” 

Use whatever words are specific to you and you feel express the energy you need to call in that day,

From there i rub the oil into my hands and my wrists - 

“For all that I touch and create today.”

I bring my hands to my nose, pausing for a deep inhale.

“For all that I sense today.”

On my third eye - 

“For all that I see.”

On my neck -

“For all that others sense from me.”

On my head -

“For all that I know.”

On my heels -

“For everywhere that I go.” 

I then bring my hands up stretching them open  as far as they’ll possibly go showing the universe how open and ready i am to receive all of these blessings - inhaling deeply.

On my exhale bringing my hands together in front of my heart space, I take a moment to soak in all of the goodness from this practice.

“And so it is.” I say to myself. “Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.”

Today was different, I decided to go the extra mile and do a face mask and put on my favorite podcast while i rolled myself a joint. After my anointing.

Right now I’m listening to ‘Revolution Ramblings’ by Amber Khan a Gemini queen I just love and admire to the core because she’s real as hell and doesn’t care about hurting your feelings or ascribing to the role you want her play. She is just simply herself and it’s refreshing to listen to.

 If you haven’t already, check out her pod and let me know what you think.  

*Disclaimer* it’s not for the faint at heart or for those who choose to remain in the victim role. Though that perspective is valid and I’m a firm believer in the philosophy of “to each, their own” This podcast may not be for you. 

Anyway, for those of you who have been asking what my skin regimen is, I never feel comfortable giving people that information because I cannot give you my skin. Which is really why you’re asking. You saw a really well edited photo of my skin glowing in the sunshine and you want to know how you can have skin just like mine. Well I’m sorry to burst your bubble but you can’t. Nor would you want to? My skin has good days and bad days just like yours and what works for me may not work for you. My advice in that case is as long as you’re intuitively choosing products that work for you and not what you aw on the instagram of some very well curated profile - you will eventually find your way. Stop comparing your journey to another’s. That goes for skin care, and life in general. 

That being said, here’s the recipe I use for my Honey face mask:

Honey Face Mask

  • Manuka Honey

  • (that’s literally it) 

    Other than that, I’ve been using African black soap (the real stuff not that SheaMoisture bs) and citrus shea butter as a moisturizer. Mostly because that’s what my skin has been asking me for. I find that, the less I do to my skin, the happier she is and the more peaceful our interactions are with each other. Thus my recipe for my Honey face mask is literally only one ingredient lol. Less is more I say.

If you’re curious whether or not it has to be Manuka Honey specifically, the answer is yes. Manuka honey is a specialty honey that is produced by bees that pollinate the Manuka tree a plant similar to that of the Tea Tree. And has similar properties. The honey from bee’s that pollinate this tree Is said to have magical properties. And from a more western medicine focused lens, is antibacterial and anti microbial and is great for skin conditions like eczema and acne. The European Journal of Medical Research, 2003; even states that medical grade Manuka honey used on post-operative wounds was more effective than regular antibiotic creams. This stuff is full of antioxidants and in my personal experience just brings back the vitality to my skin and makes me look and feel like royalty when I get to spend an afternoon with this bougie honey all over my face. Some people like to add cinnamon or turmeric to the mix to combat inflammation but if you don’t feel like doing the most, this sweet stuff is great enough on its own. Truly. 

I let it sit for as long as i feel called, usually just until i don’t feel like being sticky anymore or my joint has been rolled and smoked and I’m ready to move on. Then I rinse with warm water and a washcloth and moisturize as usual. 

It’s as simple as that.

Personally, that’s what I think self care should be. Literally self made rituals and simple intention setting specific to you that makes you feel good. Because that’s the ultimate goal of this human experience thing right? To experience all the things and to learn all the lessons and to enjoy ourselves as much as possible in the meantime? Right?

Who’s to say, I guess. Everyone is here for their own reasons. Mine just happen to be as simple and as straight forward as that. 

I choose to feel good as much and as often as i possibly can. Because what the hell is it all for if not that. 

I hope this inspires you to remember to do what you have to do to take care of yourself today. Even if it doesn’t look the way mine did. And even if you don’t really feel like it. 

Especially if you don’t really feel like it. 

May you be peaceful.

May you be happy.

May you be free.

And may you remember to enjoy yourself along the way.


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